No, sorry I won't manage your Social Media for you. But here are some free social media housekeeping tips and a blog I wrote about Autism that I never shared. Because, well that happens and that's the beauty of my #LivingSugarFree lifestyle. Understanding that all the aspects of who you are work together and being able to be yourself so that you can maximize your strengths, talents and the value of who you are.
Some of you might be wondering how are the two related and why would I put them together. Well that's just how it is for someone like me. My brain puts things together in ways that yours might not ever, which allows me to see things and find solutions that you also might not ever. It's amazing how self awareness and acceptance is trending across industries, companies and public figures. But how many really mean it? How many are really hiring people like us and allowing us to be ourselves????
Do Hidden Figures really need to continue to remain hidden??? Anywho, Social Media has everything to do with a modern day awareness and acceptance of Autism. Not just the children that you can medicate and try to cure without their permission; or use as a platform for political and social agendas. But the adults that are out here functioning in society while industries of people talk about them/us, and make decisions concerning them/us, and future generations of people just like us without actually asking for our input. I'm right here. I been right here. But they act like they don't see me. So I'm sharing and telling as much as possible, when I'm able, information and tips however they come to me. Because that's what I do.
The next part is a blog about how crappy society is to Autistic people and in general anyone who stands out as different or in disagreement. You can not bully people into agreement. So that goes for everyone and it doesn't matter who you are or who you don't like, or who doesn't like you. We can only control ourselves and for some of us that takes a lot. So do it well and take pride in being the best you. Sometimes the only way to do that is to give up on caring about the outcome or opinions of others. That's the only way to be truly #LivingSugarFree.
NT's (some just aren't diagnosed but this is a term for neurotypical) have no idea how stupid they look to Autistic folk sometimes.
Typical NT + Autistic scenario: [Because they don't wanna be there and don't feel like they belong in the first place NT's write the rules. Autistics learn them quick and the NT changes them midgame. Why because that's the basics of social interaction (if you don't know that read a book, maybe Art of War) many know how to keep an unfair advantage if their really good at the social rules of maintaining power and control. Then because many Autistic are geniuses (especially Aspies), they regroup and learn the new rules, which likely make no sense cause they were made up on the fly midstream. But then the NT's change them again. So of course by now the Autistic person is confused and/or misses a step and NT's act like they didn't just change the rules with no notice or instructions. Then the Autistic learns the third set of rules. Because no matter what you try, you can't outsmart Autistics or otherwise sabotage their natural advantage. But the NT gets an attitude because they don't understand why they can't get rid of this annoyance or make it submit. So then the Autistic finally has a meltdown because they can perceive the entire charade (if you don't get why read another book, maybe Blink can help). Not a tantrum as some of you so casually and disrespectfully imply as though it's because they're mad or not getting their way. Rather because NT's cause them total sensory overload with the distractions and dropped balls, micro aggressions, para-language, and because of all the stanky sidebar insults. But the NT will play passive aggressive at the first sign of "drama, " a word always thrown around at people who have any sort of diagnosis as though that's okay to do by an NT. The narcissist will act as though they weren't intentionally trying to manipulate the situation and like the Autistic person is just crazy for having a meltdown].
Now because I'm "too well adjusted to be autistic," yes someone actually said that to me, clearly not realizing I had a global platform and would be repeating it as part of my teaching, I'm a middle of the road observer. Meaning I get to see scenarios from both sides. Narcissistic NT's (yes I interchanged them previously on purpose because I wonder if to be 1 is to be the other) think I'm completely mental and many Autistic adults think I can't relate. What they don't get is that I am not well adjusted, I'm differently adjusted and it works for me, the many companies I've successfully lead, people who's lives I've changed and exes who wish I'd take them back. So when I share an observation, it would benefit folk who actually care about any of this stuff to consider my humble opinion. Or don't, no skin off my teeth. But what you WILL NOT DO IS BE IN MY CAMP AND CALL PEOPLE NAMES OR OTHERWISE ACT LIKE ANYONE IS TOO MUCH OF ANYTHING, I DON'T CARE WHAT THE THING IS. #TXNL is about changing the world and supporting leaders who want to be that change. None of that implies we need anyone to come over here and try to change anyone. If you can't accept humans as is, stay away from them. Period. No discussions to be had! I will not give you a peace of my mind for free. If I smell narcissism I will follow my own advice and leave you to yourself quick, fast, and in a hurry.
Anywho, my point is you look totally stupid when you treat someone who has a diagnosis that says they are unable to be socially active, like you can't control your mouth, your anger, or frustration because they are soooo hard to deal with. If this is ever you, with anyone on the spectrum I submit you may need to get checked for your own diagnosis and chances are it is a mental disorder. Something is wrong with you... Narcissism is a thing and it's rampant right now. If you find yourself being overly critical, calling names, or trying to change someone with a diagnosed neurodivergence, or even a mental disorder instead of having a qualified specialist deal with the situation... you have issues. If they don't need a specialist and they function fine, but you want to change them anyway... you really really have issues and maybe just need to leave the person alone.
NEWSFLASH: YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE. PLEASE UNDERSTAND PEOPLE ON THE SPECTRUM CAN NOT CHANGE THE THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE ABOUT THEM. IF THEY COULD IT WOULDN'T BE A DIAGNOSIS. EVEN MORE IMPORTANT TO NOTE IS THE THINGS YOU WISH YOU COULD CHANGE ABOUT THEM SHOULD BE LEFT ALONE. THAT'S WHY THEY'RE GENIUSES OR OTHERWISE GIFTED.